Home Medizin Wann es Zeit ist, eine Freundschaft zu beenden und wie man sie beendet

Wann es Zeit ist, eine Freundschaft zu beenden und wie man sie beendet

von NFI Redaktion

After his father’s death, Paul Marlow, a 36-year-old mental health lawyer in Surrey, British Columbia, found himself at a turning point. „I saw that I needed a change,“ says Marlow. He wanted to let go of unhealthy habits and start anew.

„I longed to detach myself from my old self, from my depression and anxiety,“ he says. But as he tried to move forward, his friends held him back. While Marlow embraced a healthier lifestyle, his friends prioritized drinking and partying.

As Marlow struggled emotionally, his friends became less and less available, and he realized it was time to move on.

„There can be many reasons why a friendship becomes unhealthy. But any friendship that consistently contributes to feeling disrespected, devalued, or disrespected should be reevaluated,“ says Gina Handley Schmitt, LMHC, psychotherapist in the Seattle area and author of Friendships: Creating Meaningful, Lasting Friendships for Adults.

When you change and grow, you may find that old friendships no longer fit. It may be that you naturally drift apart or suddenly realize you are in an unhealthy relationship.

Here are some signs that it might be time to move on.

You are not a priority. You may notice that your friend doesn’t make an effort to be there for you. They may be hard to reach or seem disinterested. Sometimes there may be a temporary reason, such as your friend just having a baby and being busier than before. But if you rarely feel like a priority, or if you feel like your friend doesn’t believe you are worth their time, it’s best to move on.

You don’t connect on the same level. Friendships work best when both people desire the same kind of connection. If you want a deep personal connection, but your friend can’t or doesn’t want the same, the friendship can stagnate and become unsatisfying, says Schmitt.

You give more than you take. Sometimes one person needs more than the other. But if a friend is constantly a taker and rarely a giver, it’s not a balanced friendship. If you are always there for them, but they don’t do the same for you, it may be a sign to move on.

Your friend is disrespectful or mean. Healthy friendships provide support and validation. If your friend doesn’t respect your feelings, the relationship is unhealthy. If you feel anxious or negative in your friendship, it’s a sign that it’s best to end it.

Your friend is dishonest or withholding information. „Deep connections require trust,“ says Schmitt. „And trust requires honesty.“ If you can’t rely on your friend to be open or tell the truth, your relationship will not thrive and may become a a source of frustration.

They downplay your successes. Some friendships are competitive. But if you refrain from sharing good news to avoid hurting your friend’s feelings, that’s a sign of jealousy. Good friends want you to succeed and are happy for you when you do.

When it’s time to end a friendship, there are several options.

Let it fade. Some friendships dissolve on their own. This was the case for Marlow. „The end of our friendship happened slowly. I canceled dinner plans. They stopped inviting me to join them. We just faded over time,“ he says.

If you try to make plans, but your friend keeps failing, you may find that the friendship fades when you stop trying.

Talk about it. Often, it’s best to have a conversation about why it’s ending, so both feel respected and can understand why it didn’t work out.

Regardless of how you end a friendship, try to respect the other person’s feelings, especially if the breakup is one-sided.

You can be respectful while also being honest and firm, says Schmitt. Tell your friend why you’re stepping back, but be mindful of how you deliver the message. Be kind and mature, especially if your friend did not anticipate it and feels hurt or confused by your decision.

„Not all friend breakups are permanent,“ says Schmitt. „Sometimes friends can reconnect in a different phase of their lives.“ As you grow, you may change and build new, healthier relationships later in life.

„It’s important to continue to strive for and nurture healthy friendships,“ says Schmitt.

Related Posts

Adblock Detected

Please support us by disabling your AdBlocker extension from your browsers for our website.